SEXISM….She Still Has to….Can You Help Stop it?
I have heard this on the news the past few days, then on the radio tonight, so I feel I need to share my history.
As a female, 65 years old, I have been asked inappropriate questions in an interview, “Are you planning to have any more children.”
Would a male be asked the same question? No, but even in the 70s this was a bad judgment on by a Lieutenant Commander to ask me such questions. I did report him for this remarks.
I was told by males on the job, “You know you holding this job, you are taking money away from a male to be able to feed his family.” (I was helping feed my family.)
My own mother kept information from me because I made a decision to get married. She held the information that I had earned a scholarship to attend college. She didn’t tell me until 25 years later when I decided to go to college. (I was so angry, my own mother didn’t feel I needed to attend college because I was getting married.)
I held a position as an assistant supervisor of a word processing center with 7-12 employees. The supervisor was a white male and I was told the only reason he got the job was he was a PM in the NAVY and that a female couldn’t supervise a group of females to make the center run smoothly.
Sad part—he was fired 3 yrs later for not doing his job, not wearing his teeth, and not wearing deodorant plus refusing to learn how to operate the equipment. I was given the job and I had all females in the office. A couple of years later, a male applied. He was just as qualified and my boss didn’t think I should hire him, as he may get distracted being in an all female office!!! I did hire him but had to fire him due to other problems.
When “Sexual Harassment” came out as a crime in the 70s, I was teaching members of the military the components of the law. I had the Commanding Officer sitting in the audience state “We don’t have any sexual harassment on this base.” His comment took the program back 30 years.
I was elected to serve as Federal Women’s Program Coordinator, which belongs to the EEO department. It was a volunteer position. However, during my reign, I decided to leave my husband. When a peer heard I had left my husband, she went to the Commanding Officer and advised him I was a man hater (because I was going through a divorce) and I should have been removed from office. However, the CO declined.
All the positions I have held, women had to perform 2 x’s as much. I held a position in the EEO department to help hold males accountable. On one occasion a white male supervisor made a black female pull grass out of the cracks on the flight line because she couldn’t drive the truck. I was investigating the case, and the Admin Officer was given orders to file a formal complaint against this employee. The female was so stressed she left the command and I found out the Admin Officer advised me he never filed the paperwork. He wanted to make sure he didn’t jump the gun.
I have been a fighter to help correct this, ever since I have been in the field of counseling. Females in the military come to see me and we discuss what is going on with them. Being sexual assaulted because they won’t do sexual favors, then they are the one’s booted out of the Army. The males are not punished, they stick together. I know this as I have contacts in various SRPs and they tell me how women are being separated from the military because of such actions.
On the news, they were stating SEXISM is. As a female, I find it is a lot better than it used to be, but nowhere near where it should be.
Speak up when you hear others say or do inappropriate sexual remarks? Only by all of us working together, are we going to see this BEHAVIOR STOP!!!
Thanks for listening to my preaching, but I have a mission.
P.S. If you are experiencing the above, please don’t isolate…reach out for help.
P.S.S. PM me if you would like to connect with me.